If you follow my instagram, I bet you already know the thing that I will discuss here ..
I post something in my instagram photo with a lil bit rude words as a caption for my photo but I already deleted it.
Kalau masi ada yg ga ada gambaran aku mau bahas apa, well .. you can check out my instagram di foto paling latest saya post.
WHY I STOPPED HELPING PEOPLE?
As I get older, I have started to realize something. Banyak sekali org bilang kita harus saling menolong satu sama lain tidak peduli apapun yang terjadi. It means we helped others unconditionally. Well .. none of that is totally right.
Mungkin kita bisa feel bad sometimes when we can't help others. Right? But wait .. not everything is bad. Same as not everything is good. There's always good in bad also bad in good. Jadi kalau ketika kita tidak bisa 'help' others is not wrong and we don't need to feel so bad.
Saya kasi tau why I personally stopped helping people.
1. Stop helping people who don't deserve your help.
Ketika kita diajarkan untuk menolong sesama, well its not something bad. Its the right thing to do.
But if people don't care about me, I shouldn't help them. I mean .. they doesn't deserve my help. I know its harsh but this is very logic. Karna saya juga always remember kalau saya harus tolong diri saya dulu. Ap orang lain peduli with my life? They don't care and don't even want to know. That is the point. Why you help people who is never care about you? Apa mereka peduli tanggungan dan beban hidupmu?
If helping people makes you unhappy, don't do it. Simple. Karena sometimes kita juga butuh untuk selfish and put ourself before anyone else.
2. Stop helping people who don't appreciate your help.
Kelemahan terbesar saya adalah, saya sangat sensitive. I like to help people. I help people regardless of the fact that mereka memintanya atau tidak. But you never know when that sort of philosophy could hurt you.
Well kemarin itu, ada sedikit case which is makes me feel really really angry. I'm so mad. Why? Honestly its about my work, my job, my duty. Yes i used to work in 'A' company and I will resign this month so they looked for someone who will replace my position. Ane here she's in. But my last day is less than 2 weeks to teach her.
I teach her. What I know, I told her everything, 'EVERYTHING' !! 2 days I let her watch me to do my duty, while I'm working I told her the list to do. And every times I asked her, do you understand what I told you? You got it? All of the answers are yes. So the day 3 I let her do all of my job .. and voilaa !! She doesn't remember anything. Dammit!!! Oukayy I calmed myself and I teach her again from the very very beginning. And its the same, she says yes to every thing I told her. But when I ask her again still the same .. 'I don't know'
What do you think? She doesn't even know what she doesn't understand. Also the move is very slow. I do teach her very very calm and I explain it like I explain to a child its very simple, also my voice is a lil bit loud and clear. And when she does thing, if she doesn't know she keeps quite and that is the thing I hate the most.
Kenapa dengan bertanya? Apa terlihat bodoh? Apa akan dibully? Apa berdosa jika bertanya? I really don't get it.
Kalau saya menilai nanti dikira paling pintar, padahal niatnya cuma biar they know but .. susah sama orang zaman sekarang.
'Namanya orang belajar'
'Emang lu paling pintar?'
'Sok tau banget sih lu'
'Jangan suka ngejudge orang'
'Sok perfect lo'
Dan gue cuman bisa .. diam dan senyum simpel aja, you'll know then or I'm wrong .. try to be in my position so you may know how hard you try to teach someone than you learn it yourself ..
Dan kenapa diatas saya ada jelaskan why I stopped helping people adalah because i gave up helping her to understand .. why i work so hard to teach people who don't even have an initiative to understand her duty?
Membaca saja susah. Bagaimana bisa mengerti?
Anddddddd .. next post saya mau bahas sedikit real story saya about kawan lama 🤣
Apapun kata orang nanti yang penting kita harus tetap STAY CALM.
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